Written by Joey Casey
Introduction:
In a world where fitness and mental well-being are increasingly prioritized, it’s essential for gay men to find a balance that caters to both physical health and a positive mindset. Recent times has witnesses a worrying uptik in homophobia and some deterioration in gay rights. Therefore, it is more essential than ever for LGBT+ people to maintain high quality nutrition, exercise often and work on our mindset. This blog post explores obstactles facing the gay community, how to embrace strength, both physically and mentally and to lead a fulfilling and independant lifestyle with a sense of community.
The Barriers
1. Depression and Anxiety
Studies indicate that around 28% of gay and bisexual men experience moderate-to-severe depression, compared to 18% of the general male population. Anxiety disorders are also more prevalent, with gay men being twice as likely to suffer from anxiety disorders compared to their heterosexual counterparts. Contributing Factors include Internalized homophobia, negative beliefs about one’s own sexual orientation, chronic stress faced by members of stigmatized minority groups, social isolation and a lack of supportive communities or networks.
2. Substance Use
Gay men have higher rates of substance use disorders compared to straight men. This includes increased use of alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, and other illicit drugs. Some underlying causes include using substances as a form of self-medication to cope with discrimination, pressure to come out or internal / family conflicts and an increased exposure to drug use within certain social settings, networks or living in a poorer area. Seek out specialized counseling or therapy for substance use issues, particularly those tailored for gay men, for example, GMHS in Dublin.
3. Increased Risk of Suicide
Gay men are significantly more likely to experience suicidal thoughts and attempts, with one in six having made at least one suicide attempt. This is nearly four times higher than the rate among straight men. Influencing factors include ejection from family or community, bullying or harassment, especially during adolescence, substance abuse as a coping mechanism. Signs to watch out for include withdrawal from friends, mood swings and turning to alcohol. It is important to build and maintain strong relationships with friends, family, and partners who offer support.
4. Barriers to Mental Health Services
Many gay men report negative experiences with healthcare providers, leading to reluctance in seeking further help. There are structural barriers such as lack of insurance, financial constraints, and limited availability of culturally competent care providers. We can address these barriers by advocating for better training for healthcare providers to improve their understanding of LGBTQ+ issues. Gay people can find therapists who advertise themselves as LGBTQ+ affirming or who come recommended by LGBTQ+ organizations.
5. Stigma and Discrimination
Persistent stigma and discrimination contribute significantly to the mental health challenges faced by gay men. These experiences can lead to internalized homophobia, chronic stress, and feelings of alienation. Internalized homophobia occurs when gay men absorb society’s negative attitudes towards homosexuality, leading to self-hatred and shame. Isolation can then exacerbate feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety, and can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms. This is where legal, religious and social issues must be advanced and a wider emphasis on educating people.
Fitness and Mindset
1. The Power of Physical Fitness:
Physical fitness is more than just a way to look good; it’s a crucial component of overall health. Regular exercise can help reduce stress, improve mood, and boost self-esteem. Whether it’s hitting the gym, running, or practicing yoga, finding an activity you enjoy is key to maintaining a consistent routine. Lifting weights and becoming physically stronger are known to reduce depresison and anxiety, boosts metabolism, your mood, strenghtens your joints and you become more confident with a sculpted look. I know myself when I feel stressed, hitting the gym makes a huge difference to my mood and overall wellbeing.
2. Building a Supportive Community: One of the most significant aspects of fitness is the community it fosters. Joining LGBTQ+ fitness groups or clubs can provide a sense of belonging and support longside living in a town or city that’s considered very gay friendly. These communities offer a safe space to share experiences, challenges, and successes, making the fitness journey more enjoyable and less isolating. Online communities and social media groups can also offer support and a sense of belonging, especially if you live in a more isolated area. Examples that I have seen myself are Sitges in Spain, Puerto Vallarta in Mexico, San Francisco and Berlin.
3. Mindfulness Practice: Journaling can help you track your progress and reflect on your mental and emotional state. Negative experiences and limiting beliefs can be highlighted and worked on with mindset exercises such as taking note of every positive experience during the day and swaping a negative thought for a positive one. You can use positive affirmations to boost your self-esteem and combat negative thoughts and develop a list of your own daily affirmations that resonate with you personally. It’s essential to recognize and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and to be kind to yourself during setbacks.
Visualization is another great technique to see your goals and the steps you need to take to achieve them. It enhances motivation, focuses your efforts, and reduces anxiety about future tasks. Spend a few minutes each day visualizing a specific goal. Imagine every detail, including the challenges you’ll overcome and the success you’ll achieve. When you have a negative thought, ask yourself if it’s based on facts or assumptions. Challenge the thought and replace it with a more balanced perspective. Identify triggers in your life and consider options to remove the triggers. They can be stressful social situations, bullying attitudes from family, past abuses and discrimination.
4. Nutrition and Wellness: A balanced meal plan is a cornerstone of fitness and mental well-being. Eating a variety of nutrient-rich foods can fuel your workouts and support your mental health. Consider consulting with a nutritionist to create a meal plan that aligns with your fitness goals and dietary needs. Understand and learn about brain boosting superfoods, the vitamins and minerals associated with each food item, calories and macros for building muscle, poly/mono good fats and reducing saturated fats.
Learn about complex carbs and their benefits to the body for energy and how protein assists with building muscle. I highly recommend gaining an understanding of food labels because knowledge really is king! Don’t get overwhelmed by social media influencers discussing food as some posts are simply not based on facts. Study a nutrition course from a reputable college and take advice from a qualified dietician and a muscular guy you can trust who has walked the walk. I enjoy my food every day with exciting, tasty recipes and variations.
5. Overcoming Stereotypes: Gay men often face stereotypes and societal pressures regarding body image and fitness. To begin with, it’s important to challenge these stereotypes and focus on what makes you feel strong and healthy. In fact, remember that fitness is a personal journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Furthermore, promote body positivity by surrounding yourself with positive influences and rejecting harmful stereotypes. To illustrate, educate yourself about common stereotypes and their historical context. Additionally, recognize how these stereotypes have been perpetuated and their impact on individuals and communities. Ultimately, embracing diversity and individuality is key to building a healthier and more inclusive perspective on fitness and body image.
Highlight and celebrate role models within the gay community who defy stereotypes and showcase diverse experiences and achievements. Encourage open and honest conversations about stereotypes and their impact. This can help dispel myths and promote understanding. Be critical of media and marketing that perpetuate stereotypes and if you are a content creator, prioritize diversity and challenge traditional narratives.
6. Contacting Mental Health Resources: Platforms like BetterHelp and Talkspace provide access to licensed therapists through digital communication while apps like Moodfit and Daylio help track mood, symptoms, and progress over time. Engage in online forums and social media groups dedicated to mental health support for LGBTQ+ individuals. In crisis situations, reach out to hotlines like The Trevor Project or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
Explore different forms of therapy such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and person-centered therapy. Each approach has unique techniques and benefits. Organizations like The Trevor Project, GLAAD, and local LGBTQ+ centers provide support, advocacy, and resources for mental health. These organizations often offer counseling services, support groups, and crisis intervention.
7 Setting Realistic Goals: Setting achievable fitness goals can keep you motivated and on track. Whether it’s running a 5K, lifting a certain weight, or mastering a yoga pose, having clear, realistic goals can provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment. Set SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound) to stay focused and motivated. Break larger goals into smaller, manageable steps to make progress more attainable. Keep a fitness journal or use a fitness app to track your workouts, nutrition, and progress. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, to stay motivated and positive. I personally utilise Trainerize to track my fitness progress and food diary. I celebrate with the odd piece of cake or a pizza because its important not to limit yourself too much!
Final thoughts:
Remember, the journey to fitness and mental well-being is a personal one. It’s important to find what works for you and to approach it with kindness and patience. Embrace your unique strengths and enjoy the process of becoming the best version of yourself.
By utilizing these resources and strategies, you can build a robust support system that addresses various aspects of mental health. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are numerous avenues to find the support you need.
Strength comes in many forms. It’s the courage to challenge stereotypes, the determination to seek help when needed, and the wisdom to practice self-compassion. By investing in our physical and mental well-being, we not only enhance our own lives but also contribute to a more inclusive and understanding society.
Sources:
https://menshealthfoundation.ca/research/2024-mens-depression-anxiety-study
https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/82-003-x/2019011/article/00001-eng.htm
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Thank you for sharing this information. We all encounter obstacles, and it’s crucial to seek support when needed. We’re not alone. Joey’s journey has been instrumental in helping me overcome those barriers and face my reality with dignity and respect. His support has been invaluable.